First one needs to be clear about how a "team" is different than other types of groups. Based on the book "Wisdom of Teams", teams are distinguished by having 4 attributes: 1) rules and guidelines are well-defined, e.g., who is on and not on the group, meeting rules, who decides, who has to be consulted, etc., 2) a common commitment (something inspiring), 3) a common promise, the work-product, clear in specifications and time, and 3) the group is mutually accountable for all the preceeding three.
Teams inherently have more overhead than working groups, and so should be used (and the term used) only when the work-product has certain characteristics, generally along the lines of including intractable problems, high risks of failure, breakthroughs, etc.
Our team-building usually takes 2 days:
- Welcome and Setup
- What’s So – Past and Present
- Technology of Teams
- Create Common Commitment
- Create Common Work-Product
- List and Prioritize Well-Defined Group Issues
- Technology of Solving Intractable Problems
- Work Top Group Intractable Issues
- Next Steps
If you do this in a series of meetings:
1st Meeting: Establish Relationship
- Create Common Commitment
- Create Clarity on Work-Product
- Address Listening Filters (existing assumptions or paradigms that could get in the way)
2nd Meeting: Establish Relationship
- Create “Well-Defined Group”
3rd Meeting: Start Planning
You asked about the first meeting:
- You will never get a second chance to make a first impression - walk the talk
- Speak Commitments - not the to-do's or the goals, but the why, what difference will this make that is meaningful to the team members
- Speak "we", not “I”
- Do not make anything, anyone, or anytime wrong.
- Be brief - let them talk
- Actions speak loud - be on time
- Never ignore any breaking of a team rule
- Focus on building relationships, the foundation of any team
Conflict is not to be avoided - it is what makes a team productive - have good resolution processes.